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Showing posts with label Thankful. Show all posts
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Monday, December 28, 2015

I thank fear, societal standards, and failures - a discussion of The Heart and Soul of Things



Tis the season to reflect on the pause from the regular routine. Smile through an afternoon of family bantering over mashed potatoes or send tidings of great joy, even if it's via text. But what if we expressed our gratitude for the things that bring us down? That's right. Be thankful for the fears, regrets and disappointments because we can transform that negativity into authentic living.

This is one of the many messages of The Heart and Soul of Things, written simply but beautifully by Jessy Lugo-Rodriguez, appropriately known as Gaia (Earth Mother). The first few chapters of her book bring to light how we have become our own worst enemies. But instead of allowing our inner antagonists to consume us, we should accept those demons. We feel them, harness them, and then kick them in the face until they turn into angels.

Fears, expectations, and lies, according to Gaia, are what keep us from recognizing and experiencing our authentic selves. But instead of denying or dwelling on the negativity, Gaia helps us to see how it can be useful. So if we can use our baggage positively, why shouldn't we express our gratitude for the bad as well as the good?

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She devotes a whole page to this simple acrostic that speaks volumes. Our fear negatively impacts the Root Chakra which is responsible for our stability and grounding. If this first energy wheel is not turning the way it should, then the other ones are screwed. Fear is like hot air. It can only rise and cause more misery and suffocation. Gaia blatantly reminds us of the mind and body connection when she discusses the domino effect of fear - anxiety becomes depression, depression becomes gastrointestinal illness, and the tiles keep falling.

Do we need to cut loose the Debby Downers or the Gloom Dooms? More importantly, do we need to stop replacing our excuses with our fears, and vice versa? These are questions she poses, and encourages us to answer TRUTHFULLY. Being honest with yourself is difficult and can generate a huge storm, but think about how grateful you'll be when the atmosphere rights itself again.  

 
"Numbers don't impress me," Gaia said.  This statement stuck out to me when she and I met in October during her book launch. She is aware her book may not sell like hot cakes. As a yoga instructor and spiritual healer, she may be inundated with clients one week and have very little to do the next. She may be balanced and at-peace for a while before having a day or two of batshit craziness. It is what it is. She is living authentically with no concern over expectations from family, friends, and most importantly, society. In her little memoir, she persuades us to do the same because only then can we be free and in tune.

Learn more about Gaia, her practices, services, and teachings at www.LugoYoga.com or check out her YouTube channel simply titled, Gaia. 

Wednesday, November 25, 2015

I'm thankful for weird stuff


I am thankful for my incredibly stressful job.

I pull my hair out and rant and rave about how much work I have and how hard it is to stay organized and how badly deadlines and waiting for others to do things sucks.  I look at other’s salaries and salivate.  I look around my office and wonder where my head’s at.  I walk to the printer or the front area and forget why I'm going there on the way. I stress on work when I'm home and wish I had a work laptop so that I could get more done.  I worry about stress in my office and the changes that are happening so quickly.
But I'm thankful I have a job and work with mostly awesome people (does anyone work with all awesome people?  If so, I want in!)  I am thankful I have a place to work and to stretch my brain.  I am thankful to feel challenged and trusted for my opinions by my peers.  I am thankful I get paid.
 
I am thankful I was a teen mom.

While my mom was always there to offer support and a roof over our heads, I was on government assistance for daycare and for food for myself and Matt.  I didn’t get to go out and party as often as my friends.  I never got to live on my own and find myself.  I was never on my own.  I always had someone whose life depended on my own.  I never had a chance to get up and go.  I never had the option to quit a job when I was unhappy.  While I may have acted like it at times, I didn’t have a time in my life when someone wasn’t learning from my actions.  I didn’t have a normal college experience and never got to live on campus.  Even after Jon and I got married, we needed Government assistance (housing) to care for our family.  Life was never easy.

But I'm thankful for Matt.  I'm thankful that he’s grown into a wonderful young man with a caring heart.  I'm thankful that he grew up with me and learned his love of music from me and Jon.  I'm thankful that he had his struggles with authority early and is over that shit.  I am thankful that I have a wider world view that contains struggle and that I can understand where many people are “coming from.”  I'm thankful that I know how to budget for many different situations and can help those in need.  I'm thankful that we no longer struggle (too hard) financially.  I’m thankful that we can afford our kids some of the good things in life (sad that we weren’t able to provide as much financially for Matt) but we are able to offer support as they all grow into capable young men. 

And I'm thankful they’ll al be over 18 (and maybe even out of the house) before I'm 50!

 

I am thankful for growing up with an alcoholic Step Father.

I would cry myself to sleep worried about the verbal abuse he’d heap on my mom.  I’d duck as they threw silverware at each other.  I held my mom when she kicked him out and I pled with her not to take him back.  I pulled him off my brother once and the cops were called to our house.  I smile sadly when we drive by that particular bar at the top of the hill between my dad’s house and my mom’s house because my step dad couldn’t even wait until we’d get back to the house between drinks and so we’d stop there and I’d play pinball while he’d have a beer.  I remember going to the hospital when he was in detox and watching a big orderly holding him down while he hallucinated.

But I'm thankful that I can spot addiction.  I'm thankful that, while he was an alcoholic, I can still be sad that he’d gone and miss his horrible sense of humor and dry chuckle.  I can be sad that my brother lost his dad and had to get married without his dad to be there or to meet any of his kids.  I'm thankful I have one more life experience to draw from when making decisions.

 

I am thankful for my whack job in-laws.

I won’t rant about anything specific here.

But I'm thankful that I’ve known them more than half my life.  I love that they love me and appreciate the parts of me that I bring to the family table.  I love that they’ve accepted me and all my faults and been there for me, giving me a hand up during difficult times.

 

Anyway, I'm thankful for my life.  Every crappy, difficult, challenging, sad, stupid moment of it. 
Stay tuned to the Mind Key blogspace to read about Thankfulness this week!

 
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